Inexpensive Things to Do on “Your Day” with Your Shared Custody Child

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playgroundAt Julie Clark, Attorney At Law, we help parents sort out child custody and visitation after a divorce or separation. In a lot of cases, joint custody is the best option. This allows both parents to have a say in the important decisions relating to their child.

And most parents divide the time with the children in a visitation orders.  While this is usually the best option for some children, it is not always the easiest. Dividing time can be hard for both the parents and the child, especially if the two parents have very different lifestyles. Often, parents feel as if this can cause a competition-type feeling, whether this feeling is justified or not. Children can be very transparent, so many parents find themselves feeling frustrated if their child is not having as much fun with them as they are with their other parent.

Children, as well as parents, can be difficult. Many children have fun by doing activities and going places. Unfortunately, many of these types of activities can be expensive or too time consuming. For your convenience, we often include lists of inexpensive ideas for you and your child for the next time that you have a day together. These activities are all located in the Hemet or Temecula area and are great options for a fun day in which you can spend quality time with your child – without breaking the bank!

The Western Science Center

Located in Hemet, California, the Western Science Center is open from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Tuesday through Saturday. Admission is eight dollars for adults, six dollars for children, and free for children under the age of four. The museum features many different permanent exhibits and always has a few travelling exhibits as well. One of the permanent exhibits includes “Harley Garbani — Dinosaur Hunter,” which focuses on a local fossil collector and his findings. This exhibit includes a full-sized replica of a tyrannosaurus rex skull as well as many other original and replica fossils.

Another exhibit at The Western Science Center is the “Life on Earth Timeline.” This is an open-air walkthrough exhibit that displays the earth’s eras through photos and models. Each section of time is displayed proportionally from the actual time that it took place. For example, if one era were double the length of another, it would take double the time to walk through as well.

The museum also has a section called “Postcards from the Past,” which showcases a typical 1880s home from the Diamond Valley. You can also check out the “Circular Theater,” which shows two short films regularly on its 270-degree screen.

Simpson Park

This park is located in the Santa Rosa Hills, overlooking the entire San Jacinto Valley. The park is open from 6 a.m. to 5 p.m. in the winter months and 6 a.m. to 7 p.m. in the summer months. The park includes a vast amount of hiking trails—enough to spend the whole day on!

With the great views, Simpson Park is a great location for a picnic. You can inexpensively pack up some sandwiches and snacks and spend a few hours with your child admiring the view of the valley. This can be a great time to have one–on­–one conversation, which many parents find difficult now that everyone has tablets, smartphones, and video games. With the park’s elevation reaching 2,500 feet, there is an abundance of beauty for everyone to admire—and it’s all free!

Pennypickle’s Workshop

As a part of the Temecula Children’s museum, Pennypickle’s Workshop is a laboratory run by Professor Phineas T. Pennypickle, Ph.D, and his assistant, Beaker, a field mouse. This workshop is a 7,500 square foot space inside the museum, full of inventions and experiments.

At only five dollars per person, children and their parents can spend the day exploring the workshop. There are plenty of hands-on experiences for every type of child, and plenty of inventions for kids to play with and learn about. A great thing about Pennypickle’s Workshop is that it is a learning experience—and kids may not even realize that they are learning!

Sure, you could take pay twenty dollars for you and your child to go see the newest children’s movie (and that doesn’t include popcorn!), but what comes of that experience, other than an emptier wallet? At Pennypickle’s Workshop, you and your child can spend the day learning, having fun, and bonding—for only ten dollars!

The workshop is open Tuesday through Sunday and is broken up into different sessions, to assure that every child has an opportunity to experience every aspect of this area and learn everything that they can!

Citrus Water Park Corona

This water park is another free activity that you and your child can enjoy together during your visitation. This park includes a playground, baseball fields, and picnic tables. But the most popular part has to be the splash pad.

The splash pad is an area of fountains and sculptures that is a great place to cool off on a hot day, or even spend just watching your child play. It is open to everyone, and there are plenty of different fountains and play areas, so there is always bound to be something open. Citrus Water Park Corona is the perfect place to make a splash as a parent, especially with a child that you don’t get to see as often as you might like. It creates great opportunities to get out and get active with your child!

Bonding with your child during a specific time window can be difficult for any parent. A divorce is a trying time for everyone involved, so many parents find it important to make sure that the child continues to build a relationship with both parents.

At Julie Clark, Attorney At Law, a lot of our clients have experienced these struggles. This is why we help them by blogging about local activities that will help strengthen the bond you have with your children. By checking out these options, you and your child can spend a great day together, having fun and helping your relationship with your child grow. However, these are not the only options for inexpensive activities around California, so don’t be afraid to go out and find your own adventure, and tell us about it!

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Returning to the Workforce after a Divorce

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A divorce changes many aspects of a person’s life.  Not only is your marriage ending, but you must also separate your finances, property, and in some cases, determine who will take the kids.  To say this is a tough time is an understatement:  a divorce is life changing.

If you sacrificed your job for a marriage, or became a stay at home parent while your spouse supported the family, what happens when your spouse is no longer there? When a marriage comes to an end and one household is split in to two, you’ll likely have to re-enter the workforce to support yourself and your children.  Even if the court rules in favor of spousal support from your ex, it may not be enough to completely cover life expenses without a job to supplement those payments.  But, the longer you’re out of the workforce, the harder it may become to get back in the game.

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Why Are So Many Baby Boomers Getting a Divorce?

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Divorce after 50 | Hemet, CA AttorneyWe’ve all heard friends, family, and the media talking about the rate of divorce. For years, the divorce rate hovered around 50 percent, and the “’til death do us part” section of marriage vows weren’t taken literally.

Now, according to CNN, there is renewed hope for marriage—for some. For most age groups, the divorce rate has fallen to 40 percent. But for baby boomers, however, the rate of divorce has actually risen to 50 percent.

You might think this is counterintuitive. After all, marriages are supposed to be more likely to weather life’s storms after the first seven to ten years. Make it past that benchmark, common wisdom says, and you’re set. [Read more…]

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January: the Month for Divorce

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You might have even considered divorce, and if you have, you’re not alone.

WKYZ News reports that the month of January is typically known as “divorce season.” [Read more…]

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Discuss the Effects of Divorce vs. Legal Separation

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Finances and Divorce: Completing the Schedule of Assets and Debts

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Unfortunately, arguments about money don’t end when the marriage does.

If you and your spouse have decided to file for divorce in California, discussing your finances with your divorce attorney is vital. How a splitting couple handles the separation of assets and debts—along with spousal and child support—can significantly impact divorce or dissolution proceedings. [Read more…]

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Working with Your Divorce Attorney

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“Gray” Divorces Increase

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Gray divorcee | Divorce AttorneyAmericans who thought they were “safe” from divorce—those who had been married 20, 30, 40 years—may now need to think again.

A recent article from The New York Times reports that “gray divorces,” or divorces that occur among those aged 50 and older, are on the rise. Today, more Americans over 50 are divorced than widowed: “In 2011, according to the Census Bureau’s American Community Survey, 15.4 percent were divorced and another 2.1 percent were separated. Some 13.5 percent were widowed.” [Read more…]

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Infidelity No Longer the Main Cause for Divorce

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According to a new study from Cooperative Legal Services, most couples today blame their breakup on unreasonable behavior. [Read more…]

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How Do You Tell Your Children You Are Getting a Divorce?

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I truly care for the well-being of people going through this life-changing situation, and they often come to me for answers to hard questions. Through years of experience, I’ve found that one question stands above all in difficulty:

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